Cherish Your Friendships
Circa Jamaica, December 12, 2016
So they say friends come and go...
Sure they do but its the ones who don't go that need to be kept close and thats what my eyes have been opened up to this past week/end.
So let me start with mystepsisters wedding two weekends ago, which is where the inspiration to write this started. I got a chance to collectively meet not only all of her closest friends but her new husbands best friends from all stretches of life. Being able to see all these people in one place made me realize that in one way each one of them played an important role in my sister and her husbands life really got me thinking just about friendship in general. Both of them had their closest friends on the entire planet at their wedding and it really made me ponder.. "Who will be the ones to stand by my side while I'm up there on my wedding day?" Thats a pretty interesting question to think about, right??
That question really got me thinking about who I consider my really close friends. Over the course of my life I have been quite the sociable person to get involved with many friend circles but it all dates back to the very first day of elementary school. From there to middle school, high school, first college, second college, grad school friends. Within all of those schools and over the course of those years I considered all of the things I have been involved in, high school and college football, different jobs, club involvement, recreational activities and sports, the list goes on, which brings me back to this one point: Over all of those years and all of the places I have experience and people that I have met, friends really do come and go. Looking at the friends I hold on to today, each one individually holds a significant importance to me and my life.
As a mid 20 something I have come to the realization that not all people may remain friends forever. You can look at your parents for example: They have each other and they have maybe 2-3 friends that they may keep in touch with (This is in some cases of course, but I am speaking from observing mine). I guess thats just a part of growing up, right? I beg to differ, I care way too much about my friends to let them slip and wither away and pretend like no good memories were made.
Truth is, as independent as I am, I tend to be extremely interdependent with the friendships that I hold on to for many reasons. For the past 5 months I have been away at grad school and haven't seen any friends during the course of that time but as I mentioned I obtained a few new ones. Coming home for the holidays and immediately being able to see a large handful of them really made me grateful to have them as friends. Of course we reminisced about the "glory days" and a bunch of great memories we shared but in my mind what its all about: unconditional companionship where there is always something good that can come from it. Whether it be a ride from the airport, meeting up for some food or a drink to catch up, planning collective vacations, random phone calls to share funny stories or to vent about frustrating times, these are the things that I would like to let my friends know that I appreciate them for and the list definitely doesn't end there.
To end this ramble and keep it brief I would like to challenge everyone to do this: Whether you have a large handful of people, or even one or two that you keep close, cherish those friendships and make them everlasting. I am positive you will not regret it.
So they say friends come and go...Sure they do but its the ones who don't go that need to be kept close and thats what my eyes have been opened up to this past week/end.
So let me start with my
That question really got me thinking about who I consider my really close friends. Over the course of my life I have been quite the sociable person to get involved with many friend circles but it all dates back to the very first day of elementary school. From there to middle school, high school, first college, second college, grad school friends. Within all of those schools and over the course of those years I considered all of the things I have been involved in, high school and college football, different jobs, club involvement, recreational activities and sports, the list goes on, which brings me back to this one point: Over all of those years and all of the places I have experience and people that I have met, friends really do come and go. Looking at the friends I hold on to today, each one individually holds a significant importance to me and my life.
As a mid 20 something I have come to the realization that not all people may remain friends forever. You can look at your parents for example: They have each other and they have maybe 2-3 friends that they may keep in touch with (This is in some cases of course, but I am speaking from observing mine). I guess thats just a part of growing up, right? I beg to differ, I care way too much about my friends to let them slip and wither away and pretend like no good memories were made.
Truth is, as independent as I am, I tend to be extremely interdependent with the friendships that I hold on to for many reasons. For the past 5 months I have been away at grad school and haven't seen any friends during the course of that time but as I mentioned I obtained a few new ones. Coming home for the holidays and immediately being able to see a large handful of them really made me grateful to have them as friends. Of course we reminisced about the "glory days" and a bunch of great memories we shared but in my mind what its all about: unconditional companionship where there is always something good that can come from it. Whether it be a ride from the airport, meeting up for some food or a drink to catch up, planning collective vacations, random phone calls to share funny stories or to vent about frustrating times, these are the things that I would like to let my friends know that I appreciate them for and the list definitely doesn't end there.
To end this ramble and keep it brief I would like to challenge everyone to do this: Whether you have a large handful of people, or even one or two that you keep close, cherish those friendships and make them everlasting. I am positive you will not regret it.
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